Surround myself in love, happiness, and gratitude.

I want to just surround myself with people who are happy and who want to recognize the value of happiness. It’s not that ignorance is bliss, because we still have a responsibility to look at the differences of the world and recognize the reactions they bring. What I am aiming for is trying to make sense of my favourite words from Mahatma Ghandi: To “…be the change we wish to see in the world.”

One thought is that those who seek happiness are not truly happy. Why would they seek to be happy if they already were? Would they not be grateful that they are happy rather than striving to reach happiness? I want to focus on gratitude. Gratitude places us in a state of having accepted what we already have. If I am thankful, then I am happy, and happiness is being fulfilled. If I am fulfilled then it is easier to seek out more experiences and obtain answers to grow as individual beings.

I’m beginning to see many people are embittered (including myself) by the state of many things in the world. It is true that there are many changes that need to be made, in which, no one is exempt from their responsibility to make assessment of, but I want to personally learn to turn myself away (not completely) from those who are using various levels of hate (in all forms) to justify any campaigns or reasoning. I personally think that it is unnecessary to hate something that does not affect anyone directly in any way other than the mere idea of “discomfort” (ex. Those who go out of their way to hate something/someone because of preconception or ideals without reasoning). I especially dislike: hate, racism, and prejudice in loud forms, especially when it is voiced with negative colloquialisms, meant to emphasize the point.

I am not against you, nor am I arrogant enough to believe that your opinion in this spectrum of existence is not valid. All people are entitled to their opinions and beliefs. I simply would like to focus on ideals that enrich my life, now that I am aware of where I want to focus my personal ideals.

Don’t hold it against me if I ever decide to simply not hang out with you or grow apart from you. It is not that I hate you, I simply find you unbearable or believe you would find me as such and wish to avoid unnecessary conflict. Don’t take it as an insult, but as the simple thought that it is time to move on and carry what we positively learned from each other with us. It is better to part ways when things are neutral or even positive, then it is to make a confrontation about an issue that we both do not agree on, nor will ever.

I don’t hang out with anyone who…

…is anti-Semitic or makes anti-Semitic comments out of malice.

…is against the ideals that there are 3 sexes male, female, trans-gendered.

…is prejudice against age, homosexuality, profession, and religion/spiritual practice/beliefs.

I do not expect anyone to not be…

…a hypocrite at some point in their lives or on some issues.

…imperfect.

…opinionated.

I do expect those around me to…

… be civil and accommodating of all people.

… have the ability to agree to disagree. A little bit of pride is necessary but arrogance is ABSOLUTELY unnecessary.

… understand and be open to most forms of love. (Love in romance, love of partnership in professionalism, love of teacher and student, love of parent and child, love of friendship, love of marriage or long term partnership, love at first sight, etc…)

… have the willingness to evolve in thought and understanding. (This does not mean forced changes in beliefs to fit in. Nor do you have to change at all, only be able to accept, assess, affirm and move on.)

… don’t try your best to change myself or those around me to suit your ideals, unless I really am being a downright ass about something or truly hurting the majority of others around me.

… if I am hurting the few I love most, I seriously do need the change and the help, do not give up on me. Tell me why I need the change and always let me know that you love me.

… understand the ugliness and the value of jealousy. (When in a relationship of romance.) There are two parts to its purpose and meaning. There are also two parts in regards to the two people involved. Jealousy shows you that you have the ability to love and helps you to understand the level of love involved. Think of it as a reminder that time needs to be spent with each other, and that perhaps not enough time is being spent together, thus raising the thoughts of mistrust. A romantic and permanent relationship is meant to be focused on and not taken for granted. If you plan on carrying on a marriage or a relationship with a large magnitude of seriousness, then please consider each others feelings the most and take action to BE with that other person in mind body and soul (if the last one is applicable to your beliefs). Jealousy carries the worst destruction if it is not dealt with by both parties with proper communication. When jealousy is excessive it turns to abuse. Have a healthy balance of this, understand and accept it. Balance in all emotions in serious relationships is important.

Understand that I do not believe in good or evil. Cause and effect is above all. I have my own personal preferences of right and wrong, and I intend to pass that on as my legacy to my children, but whatever I pass onto them, I always hope that they will carry on within them and pass to their own children to become better than any previous generations, to further progress and change in the human race. They should think and believe for themselves and as stated before “…be the change they wish to see in the world.”

In the end one thing is meant to be kept in mind: the only sure ideal is that all these prejudices, ideals, and beliefs can be solidly argued as “man made”. There is no solid proof of any higher being that logically sets belief systems in stone and makes law above all humans. History, sociology, and anthropology are the only studies that can give us a most probable pattern of humans creating laws to control their surroundings.

Either way I am grateful for EVERYONE that crosses my path in life to help me grow.

tl;dr

I don’t plan on hanging out with people who are prejudice. I want to move on and focus on things that are beneficial to myself and my loved ones.

Food for Thought: Your Genepool

AEther’s Food for Thought:

Good evening, my pretty sapiens and star children!! What do you do when you know that all the potential and goodness of your past generations inside of you also carries in an equal lottery of all the burdens and dis-figurations that your forefathers have genetically seeded conveniently in your DNA?
I know what I’m going to be doing? I’m going to go and… have a cup of coffee…
Let’s celebrate the Russian roulette of reproduction in SONG!!!! <3

Philosophy® Purity Made Simple

Happy New Year everyone!

I’ve decided to start doing reviews and the first one I’d like to review is Philosophy® Purity Made Simple, which my husband had gotten as a sampler with my Yule gifts.

Philosophy® Purity Made Simple is a one step facial cleanser. It’s easy to use and perfect for women who are on the go or who like to keep things simple. It’s moderately priced and hilariously smells like a mix between Ginger and Fruit Loops.

I have sensitive combination skin: dry at my cheeks, very oily T zone, and an allergy to aloe, it’s rather crazy. I’ve tried so many things to help clear up my skin from acne and blemishes. Neutrogena, St. Ives, ProActiv, Olay, and more. There wasn’t anything that even came close. Everything either left me dry, skin too tight, or I got too much oily residue soon afterwards.

It’s definitely something to try out! You can purchase a small 3oz bottle at Sephora for $10.

I’m definitely more than pleased with the results and so is my skin!

Dollar Store Bathroom – Brown Tones

Some people don’t like the tacky knick-knacks at dollar stores, but sometimes you can’t deny yourself a little bit of a treat with the cute things you can find! I needed to give a little bit of subtle life to my bathroom this year, and I needed it to be under $20. After deciding that I wanted to go with brown tones. I made my way to Dollarama.

Here re my finds:

Coffee Scented Candle
Ceramic Candle Holder
Incense in a Bottle
Vanilla Rose Air Freshener
Pillow Case (2 pack)
Glass Beads
Hand and Face Towel Sets (x2)
Rug

All for $15 at Dollarama!

I’ll be updating this post in the next few days as we see the transformation of these simple items into a cheap and easy bathroom set.

My Desktop

Here’s my current desktop to help motivate myself.

The poem is by me.

Ya… I got nuthin else to say so…

Night!

OMG Cute WTF?

A friend has been helping me out lately to figure out my own personal worth to ensure my stability. So I just wanted to show my thanks to him and affirm my progress in the matter. THANK YOU!!! (You know who you are, superficial may be your second name, but I still love and value you for your help, care, and friendship. )

For the most of my life I have been lacking self confidence and worse had a belief in verbal self mutilation. My thoughts were that I feared egotism, pride, and conceit. So in my desire to flee from narcissism I inflicted hate and sabotaged myself regularly.

There were indeed many factors to this state including my personal sensitivity to teasing, matriarch quips and judgments, as well as an undiagnosed growth of mental instability. Needless to say I created a persona filled with outward acknowledgements that I was unworthy of praise and unable to think of myself as worthy of self praise.

To state the situation that sparked my epiphany: said friend kept telling me I am “cute”.

In my life many people have made such an opinion of my actions, size, and style. What changed me to think on this issue more readily: was the persistent compliment from said individual that confused me. I would often bitterly question why and then verbally berate myself. He finally mentioned that I needed to stop the cycle of belittling myself.
As always, I would question “How?” often this would be a way to make a quirky comeback, but lately, and in desperation for change I stood there, iPhone in hands, from texting: dumbfounded. Instead of asking “How”, I asked myself “Why?” I wanted to know why he thought I was cute. He replied that it was “How you carry yourself. The things that get you excited and the things you say… It’s the way you get excited.”

Later, stressed by my personal inquisitions I began to do what I often do to procrastinate when dealing with an important issue: work; game; play with makeup. So, after an impromptu photo shoot with my iPhone and giddy delight; I began to think again while I did some minor Photoshop editing.

I began a system of thoughts beginning with: “What defines cute?” Being a fan of an old game in the past “7 Degrees of Kevin Bacon”, I concluded a ridiculously simple thought: “What is cute in my eyes?” I realized that many actions that I had defined as “cute” had already been adopted into my personality!

At the late hour of 11pm I sat in my apartment aghast, staring at my newly taken photos of the day. I AM cute! I giggle at nerdy things. I scrunch my face and pull up my fists like a hamster when I’m excited. I swing my legs back and forth ’cause I can’t touch the floor when I sit in chairs. I fit into most overhead compartments!

It wasn’t narcissism because I don’t think I am better/cuter than everyone; it was a sheer realization and appreciation for myself.

So, I’m going to keep doing what I do and be who I enjoy being.

I just need to work on “beautiful”, “smart”, and “talented” then I’ll be set to tackle the rest of me!

P.s. For the nosey and curious here is the link to the photo of my makeup playtime:

Introductions on Every Chapter

Seriously, WTF with introductions in philosophy books? I am so annoyed when I want to read the actual message/text/dialogue in a book and some pompous translator puts a 10 page spoiler at the beginning, giving away the whole damn lesson/story or worse!

What are we too stupid to understand the teachings of another human being? No we are not. Otherwise the introducer/writer would not have understood it themselves!

Don’t treat your reader like an idiot! Treat your reader as a student. We who crave inspiration and knowledge wish to be taught through wisdom. All human minds with the desire for lessons past deserve to be educated through discovery!

Give us the moment of adrenaline when we euphorically own our personal “Eureka!”. Leave the study at the end of the original text. Give us the foreplay and the orgasm. Then you can pillow talk all the fuck you want!

Are you my match? Then where the hell is he?

Ok so I was curious about long term love compatibility…

I’m an Aries (Sun), Aries(Moon), Sagittarius (Ascendant/Rising)

… so I am most compatible with anyone that is:

Sun Signs

Aquarius (For creativity and motivation)

Sagittarius( creative inspiration and dual independence)

Leo (inspire and achieve big goals)

Aries (passionate and adventurous, but only works with compatible moon signs)

Moon Signs

Moon Aries-Moon Sagittarius (HOT)

Moon Aries-Moon Aries (Bang On)

Moon Aries-Moon Leo (HOT)

Rising Signs

Same as the Sun Signs Apparently

Ok so… yeah how the <expletive> do I find the right person in this sense? Most people don’t even know the exact time they were born! LOLZ!

Well message to him is: You better be out there so that I can have snuggles! O_O

So we all know how to find our sun sign

here’s how to figure out your moon sign:

http://www.ofesite.com/spirit/horoscop/moonsign/moonform.htm (if your day is not named, you are within the same sign as the date listed before your birthday)

rising sign: http://www.horoscopeswithin.com/calculate.php (Apparently in love it describes the personal/physical attraction?)

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By AEther

Infectious is the nature
To which she feeds from
Within this bubble
She is lost and found

Found in friendship
Lost in love
Forever in a climb
Reaching for the one

Think not on tradition:
Yet.
One is within
Faceted and cracked

To appease the hollow
Epoxy driven she repeats
Ambition in epidermis
Flawed despite the dare

Truth held high
Honesty in heart
Ravaged in speech and action
From the first kiss of the sun

Snake bitten whispers in the wind
Unbeknownst to foreign ears
The outcome of twenty six rotations of the sun
Kept tightly locked within

Through the distance in her eyes
Someone will unlock and see
Poison lipped they will speak
Infectious in their nature

In calamity she will hide.

Memory

Do you wonder that some ghosts wish to haunt you, but never in a way that is typical to the common thought? Let us say a memory, a wish, or even an idea. A moment in your lifetime, there was a passing thought, that shook you so hard to the core, and lifted your soul for a single second. It changed you and shook the world in which you existed. A vibration that went beyond the inner bones?

Sometimes they pass on and it fizzles into a simple sputter that is inaudible to even your own heart’s ear. Other times it swells and causes a surrender. Tormented in its own form, but a found salvation in sadness. It never reaches fruition, but it lingers only as a reminder that you once lived in a moment of change.

Be able to wait for that message and do not deny its reality. Never cast it aside, because its whisper is so precious.

In other moments, it will be so loud that your soul will rumble the emotion, and it will echo in your core.

Don’t wait for it or observe for it. Just feel for it. Hold on to the hope.